So, I’ve been back at work full-time for 2.5 days. Thursday, Friday, and now Monday. How has it been going? It’s interesting you should ask. Because I’ve just been trying to figure that out myself.
On the one hand, it’s going pretty well. Pretty well for me, that is. Well, pretty well for me in the professional sense. Emotionally, I’m a wreck. And hubby? Well, poor hubby has his hands full. Oh, and, of course, the baby! She’s been struggling, to say the least.
So, as I sit here, pumping in my designated “lactation space,” I can’t help but reflect on my new life as a working mom. Here’s how I feel it’s going so far.
All you working mamas out there, let me know if this sounds familiar, please! Am I (we–my family) alone in our struggles? AND, as always, any advice you can share is so appreciated.
Being a mom, I learn something new everyday. For example, yes, it does matter if baby’s diapers are on well. Cleaning poop off of her, her onesie, and let’s not forget the swing, is not fun.
It may not always be fun but it is always an adventure learning with my baby girl. It’s been amazing watching her grow. She really does change a little every day. She can do more now than she could a week ago. And don’t get me started on how different she is from the last time I wrote a “Tips From A First Time Mom” post (which you can find by clicking HERE).
Her needs are different now. So is my ability and capacity to meet them. I know her better. I’m more confident. I really feel like I’m getting the hang of this. Do I still have a lot to learn? Heck yes, I do! But, for now, I’m going to share what I’ve learned in the last month.
Here are my Tips From A First Time Mom: Two Months In
I’m tired more often than I’m not. I’ve come to accept that this is my new life. More than accept it, I’m learning to thrive in my new role as “Norah’s mom”. I’m balancing spending time with my baby, hubby, cleaning my house, (slowly) going back to work, and still hanging out with friends a couple hours here and there.
But, even though my life is going great, there is one aspect of my old pre-mama life that I miss.
I miss my me time.
So, I’ve decided to start making me a priority again. Here’s what I’m doing to get mama some much needed me time!
What are the biggest complications facing a breastfeeding mama? From what I’ve gathered, they are:
Pain while feeding
Baby not gaining weight
Supply too low
If you’re a new mom, chances are you’ve faced one or more of these things. I suffered through all of them. It seems like every mom I met during the first few weeks of my baby’s life nodded with sympathy and understanding when I explained my breastfeeding woes. Many of them had given up on breastfeeding earlier than they wanted to. Some had soldiered on but talked about how much it hurt and how they were so thankful when their babies finally weaned.
That was not the experience I wanted. And I did everything in my power to make sure that was not the experience I would have.
I know how heartbreaking it can be to struggle with breastfeeding. I know how lonely and frustrating it is. But, I also know how rewarding it is to make it to the other side. If you’re considering giving up on breastfeeding, give me one post, one chance, to convince you to push through just a little bit longer. If anything, I want to give you hope. Tell you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Let you know you’re not alone.
I’ve been back at work for a total of 12 hours. Twelve hours accumulated over three days spread out across a week and a half. It’s not a lot, I know. I’m transitioning back to work slowly. I’ll be going back full time in the beginning of May.
But, still! I hate being away from my baby. Twelve hours might as well be 12,000! The prospect of being gone ten hours a day, five days a week is weighing on me big time.
I’m not worried about how she’ll handle it. She has her daddy who will be staying home with her. She’ll be fine.
I spent the day hanging out with my baby. Hanging out. Not waiting for nap time to roll around. Not putting her in her swing, hoping she would entertain herself long enough for me to get some stuff done around the house.
I actually hung out with her.
And it was amazing! I actually started doing this last week when I read about what she would be learning during her second leap (yes, I’m on the Leap thing again. I’m telling you. Wonder Weeks. It will change your life!). And, since I’m going to be going back to work full-time soon, I’ve decided to make it a weekly tradition. A way for me to soak up every adorable little bit of my baby girl.