Cry It Out: My Baby, My Method, My Way

Let’s be honest with ourselves here. Who, as a parent, hasn’t let their baby cry for a little bit while they were trying to get something done, go to the bathroom, eat, regain some sense of sanity, etc.?

We can’t do it all. We only have two arms for a reason. And, maybe that reason is so that we have to put baby down every now and again in order to be a functioning person. It’s evolutionary. Right? Maybe?

Maybe babies are meant to be left alone every once in a while.

As I’m saying all of this I can hear the collective groans of parents around the world who are completely against the Cry It Out (CIO) method. But, before you go and verbally slay me in the comments, give me a chance to explain what I’m really talking about.

I promise, it’s not as heartless as it might seem.

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Tips From a First Time Mom: Five Months In

What just happened? Did you see it? Did you feel it? Time just whooshing by! I don’t know about you, but I missed it.

How did my baby girl get to be 5 months old? How did my little Squish turn into a rolling, grabbing, babbling baby? I talked in my 4-month post about how quickly Norah seems to be changing these days. Well, if I thought she changed a lot from three to four months, I had no idea what was in store for me from months four to five.

I had a friend tell me that around three months, their little one turned into a person. She was right! That’s exactly what happened last month. This month, Norah has not only grown more physically, but that personality she started to exhibit before has really started to shine through.

It was a fun month. So much happened. Looking back on it all, I have a few tips to pass along to any other new mamas out there with babies on the cusp of hitting this very exciting age.

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Working Mama: Tips for Making Working Work

Working full-time is hard. Period. End of statement. The end.

Well, not really the end. Because now, not only are you working full-time but you’re a mom!

Being a mom is hard. Period. End of statement… You get it.

Working is hard, and being a mom is hard. That means that being a working mom is very hard. It’s hard physically; it’s hard emotionally; it’s hard to be away; it’s hard to be home. It’s just plain hard.

Well, as one working mama to another, I’m here to share with you some tips that have helped me (or would have helped me if I had thought of them sooner…) survive my life as a working mama.

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Norah’s New Friend

This blog serves a couple different purposes:

  • A place for me to share tips or advice I’ve learned as a first time mom
  • A place for me to share my general experiences with life as a first time mom
  • A place for me to record different moments and memories with my baby girl.

This post is going to be one of those “memory” type posts. Just something to remember the different moments and milestones in Norah’s life, how I feel, how she’s doing, yadda yadda yadda.

So, dear reader, if you care to join me in this post, I’m going to talk about something that was probably a bigger deal for me than it was for Norah.

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Musings From a First Time Mom- Four Months In

Well, I’m a little late with this post. I know I’ve been absent from blogging lately. And, I could bore you all with reasons/ excuses and ramble on about work/life/yadda yadda yadda. But, that’s not why you came here today, now is it?

So, I won’t go into all that. I will say that soon (very soon!) I will be back to my old blogging self.

In the mean time, here are some musings I have to share. For you, from me, a first time mom, four months in.

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Married with Children

It’s good to be aware of the new stresses that are going to bombard your relationship and to come up with a plan of attack for how to handle them when they do.

Are you ready for a cold, hard dose of truth? I’m warning you:

DO NOT READ ON IF YOU WANT TO REMAIN BLISSFULLY UNAWARE OF THE REALITY OF BEING MARRIED WITH CHILDREN.

To start this off nice and terrifyingly, let’s read a quote from one of my favorite books Brain Rules for Baby by Dr. John Medina:

“We now know that this long-term erosion is a regular experience of married life, starting in the transition to parenthood. Marital quality, which peaks in the last trimester of a first pregnancy, decreases anywhere from 40 to 67 percent in the infant’s first year. More recent studies, asking different questions, put the figure closer to 90 percent… Indeed, one-third to one-half of new parents display as much marital distress as troubled couples already in therapy trying to save their relationship.”

What’s more, that stress and distress felt in a marriage is also felt by the baby. Dr. Medina goes on to explain:

“Infants younger than 6 months old can usually detect that something is wrong. They can experience physiological changes–such as increases in blood pressure, heart rate, and stress hormones–just like adults. Some researchers claim they can assess the amount of fighting in a marriage simply by taking a 24-hour urine sample of the baby.”

I can hear your internal screams and worries now:

WHAT DOES IT ALL MEAN? HOW DO I STOP IT? IS IT INEVITABLE?

I had the same thoughts, fears, and panic. I love my husband. I love my family. What do you mean I have a nearly 50% chance of becoming miserable just because I had a baby? That can’t be!

Well, four months into parenthood, I can tell you, it can be. I’m not saying that it is. Hubby and I are actually doing really great. But, that’s because we sat down before our baby girl arrived and talked about all of this stuff. I’m not saying that we’re relationship gurus over here, and that our marriage is perfect. Far from it.

What I am saying, though, is that it’s good to be aware of the new stresses that are going to bombard your relationship and to come up with a plan of attack for how to handle them when they do. Dr. Medina, in his book, goes on to discuss the biggest struggles new parents will face and how to prepare for them. And yes, we have faced them. We’re still facing them.

But, we were prepared.

And, my hope with this post is to help you and your partner get prepared, as well. Our way may not work for you, but hopefully this will spark you to start having these conversations and figuring out your way to prepare for, handle, and make it through all the troubles of being married with children.

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Father’s Day- A Year Later

It was Father’s Day 2018 when I found out I was pregnant. Hubby and I were driving home from visiting my parents when the anxiety consumed us and we stopped to get a pregnancy test. The second I got home, I took it. And, two minutes later, we got the most life-changing news either of us had ever received.

This last year has been a rollercoaster. There have been ups and there have been downs. But, overall, it’s been a lot of fun. Being parents wasn’t something we were planning on but it’s something we both love so much.

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