If you scroll back through my posts, all the way back to the very beginning, you’ll notice several things:
- Man, this woman posts about breastfeeding a lot
- Wow, she used to be a lot better at posting regularly
- Hey, what happened to the posts about Babywise and Wonder Weeks?
In regards to observations 1 and 2: Yes, I blog (blogged) a lot about breastfeeding. It was such a huge struggle for us, and blogging was my primary outlet. And I know, I know. I used to post 3-5 times a week! Well… life… that’s all I have to say about that.
But, in regards to point #3, I have a little more to say. So, let’s discuss why I stopped blogging about Babywise and Wonder Weeks, shall we?
I consider myself an honest person. Very honest. For that reason, I feel like I need to discuss these two topics. In addition to talking about them, I’m going to include some links, so you can do some investigating on your own.
Babywise: Maybe it’s just me?
I know a ton of people who swear by Babywise. Friends, family, moms on group chats… they have all had great success. Me, not so much.
Maybe I’m not consistent enough. Maybe I missed something when I was reading the book (I was very pregnant and pregnancy brain was in full swing, to be fair). But, it didn’t work for me. I still like some of the ideas:
- First/ Last Feeding
- Letting baby set the pace while parents set the routine
There are some great concepts in the book that I have easily incorporated into my own personal parenting style. But, in all honesty, I got past Merge 1 and pretty much stopped there.
Norah has never been ready to merge any more of her feedings. She does occasionally sleep through the night. But then, other nights, she doesn’t. Does she need to eat when she wakes up at 1:30am? No, probably not. But, she wants to. She wants me to comfort her. And, I’m okay with that.
And now, even though she’s nearly 5 months old, she still wants to eat every 2.5-3 hours. I’ve tried cutting out one of her feedings and she was just not having it. I tried pushing it back a little. Nope. I tried moving one of her feedings up and tricking her. Didn’t work.
The thing is, she’s going to do what she wants when she wants. And, for that reason, I decided to set my Babywise book aside and just roll with the punches.
Now, don’t just read about my experience and think you have the whole story. There are tons of testimonials out there, some against and some for the Babywise method. Here are a couple to consider:
Wonder Weeks: Norah just marches to the beat of her own drum, I suppose
When I first discovered Wonder Weeks, I seriously thought it was God’s gift to parenting. It made everything suddenly make sense. It explained why Norah was fussy and warned me about when she would be fussy again.
I know a ton of moms who love the Wonder Weeks. And, I still think the whole concept behind it is pretty cool. Norah just doesn’t seem to be following the schedule anymore. I’m not talking off by a day or two. I’m talking weeks. Leap 4 was supposed to be huge and horrible. I barely noticed it. And I’m pretty sure she’s starting on “Leap 5” already, even though it’s two weeks early.
Instead of looking at the Wonder Weeks calendar to figure out if Norah is going through some developmental “leap,” I’ve learned to follow her cues. Sometimes she’s extra sleepy. I’m talking sleeps all day and all night kind of sleepy (and no worries, she’s not sick). It lasts for about two days, then she’s fussy, and then, out of nowhere, she’s doing something new! This has happened a couple times.
Now, maybe it’s just a coincidence. Maybe the sleepy/cranky thing was just her going through a phase. Either way, I’ve come to accept that Wonder Weeks just isn’t going to give me the answers I had hoped it would.
I still like it, though, because it does give some great ideas for activities and games to play with your baby. It also talks about other parents’ experiences, which are helpful to read when I’m feeling lonely and frustrated.
For a little more information about the good, bad, and brutally honest about Wonder Weeks click this link right HERE.
Random but maybe important note on Wonder Weeks: It seemed to lose a lot of its allure when I read that the author and his theory had been discredited–by his own student.
What I’m Trying to Say Is…
I didn’t stop blogging about these two topics because I forgot or because I suddenly lost interest in them. It’s because they haven’t worked for me. And, I feel that it’s important to be honest about that.
I’m not going to take down my previous posts about Babywise or Wonder Weeks. Because I believe that both methods do help hundreds of thousands (if not millions) of parents out there.
They just didn’t help me as much as I had hoped they would.
And, I owe it to you, dear reader, to be honest about that.