My Baby Isn’t Your Baby (And That’s Okay!)

“My baby is sleeping through the night.”
“My baby is grabbing onto toys.”
“My baby is rolling over.”

Well, MY baby isn’t doing any of those things.

Does that mean something is wrong with her? No. Does it mean that I’m not doing a good job as a mom? No.

So, what does it mean?

Absolutely nothing! It means nothing. And I’ve had to remind myself of that. I can’t compare my baby to other babies. And I can’t compare myself as a mom to other moms. It’s okay if Norah’s not sleeping through the night yet. That just means more snuggles and more time together–just the two of us. Maybe she’s not grabbing at toys just yet, but man! she loves books. She has her own personality, and I just love seeing it come out a little more every day.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that I want other moms to stop bragging about their little ones’ achievements. Believe me, as soon as Norah sleeps through the night for the first time every single person in the blogging/ facebook/ social media world will know about it.

I think it’s great that we share our victories with each other. I think it’s important that we celebrate them together. But, in order to do that, we need to come to a place of complete understanding and acceptance of one very important fact: my baby is not your baby, and that’s okay!

Don’t be discouraged if your baby is still waking up two, three, four times at night. Don’t panic if your baby isn’t rolling over by this time or crawling by that. Let your baby be who they are. Love them and encourage them. And, while you’re at it, encourage the other mamas around you. Celebrate with them. Cry with them. Feel their pain and their excitement. Because being a parent is hard and there’s no one-size-fits-all guide to raising a baby.

Your baby is perfect for you, and you are perfect for them. That’s why they’re your baby. I am the best person in the world to care for Norah. And she is and always will be my little girl. She’ll hit her milestones and in the blink of an eye, she’ll be walking, talking, running, going to school… If she wants to take her time, I’m okay with that. I’m just going to soak up every moment and be in that moment completely.

So, tell me mamas–What awesome thing did your baby do today? I want to celebrate with you!!

16 thoughts on “My Baby Isn’t Your Baby (And That’s Okay!)

  1. One thing that gets under my skin as a first time mom is the constant need to make our babies fit into the perfect baby mold. If they are a little ahead or behind of another baby, we are made to feel bad. I love how unique every child is and how they all interact regardless of their achievements of lack of. Our babies are awesome just because they are ours and I love my girl regardless of the fact she woke up at 315 this morning for no reason. Your girl will suddenly just wake up and everything will click. Just wait!

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  2. This is such an important post to remember, especially for new moms. I just gave birth to my second, and I’ve never really compared my children to others their age because I understood everyone develops differently at different stages. Unfortunately, though, I’ve had some family members shame me by doing just that and saying (so and so is 2 years old and already know this and that while my 2 year old doesn’t). I’ve just learned to ignore. It’s soo unhealthy to constantly compare, especially if the kids grow up and realize they can’t live up to those expectations.

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    1. Congrats on baby number two!!! And I’m sorry your family did that. I think people say things and don’t realize the impact their words can have. But it’s good that you’ve learned to ignore it! You’re 100% right. Every baby is different!

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  3. When I had my baby I was told so many times a baby had to breastfeed for at least ten minutes, well my baby didn’t want to do that she’s only feed for three or four. Come to find out she was just a efficient eater. But doctors and crap on the internet make you so hypersensitive to everything about your baby. It makes a already hard job of being a mom harder.

    Either way you doing awesome!

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    1. Thank you!! And I think the internet is a blessing and a curse, especially for new moms! There’s so much information at our fingertips, which is good sometimes but bad for the exact reasons you mentioned. At the end of the day, mama knows best!

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  4. Great post , My daughter never slept through the night. she is 23 now and still does’mt .I never liked or listen to others. I always went by my instinct , gut feeling and I did well with that, so do what your doing and do not listen to others. every child is different.

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  5. I love the points you make in this post! I sometimes feel as if moms compete over their babies; which one can sit up or recognize colors first and miss out on the most important thing of all; enjoying and loving their baby for who they are.

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